However, with so many authors asking questions about queries and shtuff... I decided to query a whole bunch of agents (looking for books like mine) using AAR, AgentQuery, QueryTracker and Writer's Digest. What did I learn from this experience? DO NOT use AAR, AgentQuery, QueryTracker, or Writer's Digest. The information on these sites, tends to be extremely outdated! Half of the e-mails bounced back... Another third sent automatic replies that the agent was no longer with that agency. You need to Google for literary agencies and go from site to site, reading agent profiles to see what each agent is actually looking for. While AAR, AgentQuery, QueryTracker and Writer's Digest are great in theory... Because in theory they save you time in looking for agents... The execution of these sites left much to be desired.
Do I really want to seek representation? I hadn't really given any thought to it before. Yet... It might be nice to be able to just focus on my writing and not have to put so much energy, money and time into advertising, cover design, editing, marketing, promotions, public relations, etc.
As for how I react/respond to rejection... Well, I'm confident in who I am and in my voice... And I'm also lacking in that pesky thing that people tend to refer to as insecurity... So, I don't care about rejection. Rejection is a blessing, because it keeps your options open. Rejection leaves you open to an agent who will be the best possible fit for you. Think of agents kinda like marriage... Are you going to marry just anyone you date? Certainly not! You're going to marry the person who's the best fit for you and keep your options open in the meantime. At least, you shouldn't marry just anyone you date... In the same way that you shouldn't let someone represent your work (sorry, I meant to say, your baby) unless they're the best possible fit for you. So, if someone rejects me, they're actually doing me a huge favor! It's very plausible/possible that rejection, is in fact, one of the best things that could possibly happen to you! If you receive a rejection, just take it all in stride and keep being awesome! That's what I do.
However, if you really want to improve your chances of landing the right agent... I think, if someone does reject you, it should be ok for you to nicely ask something along the lines of: "If you could please give me some input. One or two pointers, perhaps. I would greatly appreciate it."
Thank you! I hope you all have a smashing day!